Midnight Thoughts

You cannot die of grief, though it feels as if you can.

A heart does not actually break, though sometimes your chest aches as if it is breaking. Grief dims with time. It is the way of things. There comes a day when you smile again, and you feel like a traitor.

How dare I feel happy.

How dare I be glad in a world where my ex-boyfriend is no more.

And then you cry fresh tears, because you do not miss him as much as you once did, and giving up your grief is another kind of death.

It’s a whole new kind of death…

And afterwards… if you’re lucky enough to survive, you learn to live and love again.

Famous Break-up Lines

Here are some famous Break-up Lines... Do some of these lines ring a bell? Has anyone ever dumped you before? Well... here are some of the most obvious, insensitive and often over used break up lines...


1. "I just realized that I don't want to be touched."
(Virgin ka ‘te?)

2. "I'm confused and I need some time out to find myself!!!"
(Eto flashlight, go look for yourself!)

3. "Maybe this is not the right time for us."
(Anak ng tipaklong! di na kita tatanggapin ulit no?! Bakit? anong oras ba dapat?! alas-otso?????)

4. "Di kita maalagaan ng tulad ng ineexpect mo. You deserve someone better. That's not me."
(Bakit sinabi ko bang gusto ko ng YAYA????)

5. "Lasing lang ako kagabi. Sorry."
(Eh ako ba lasing? Sino nagsabi sa iyo na manligaw ka ng lasing!)

6. "We are too different from each other."
(Bakit anong klaseng ANIMAL ka??)

7. "We have to meet other people to see what it's like to be with someone else. I'm giving you that choice. If you come back to me, we'll both be better from having chosen freely"
(HoY! mga palusot mo! break kung ayaw mo na...dami mo pang satsat eh! )

8. "Someday, hahanapin kita, when we're both ready. When we don't care about the odds. Kung tayo talaga, tayo rin in the end, di ba?"
(Tarantado! Tataguan na kita! kala mo magpapahanap ako!!)

9. "I really think that we should break up." "Why?" "Because I don't know if I still love you."
(Tapos next week may kasama na siyang iba. Olrayt sa okei!)

10. "I just realized I haven't had time to walk my dog..."
( O cge! lakad mo na rin buong pamilya mo! magsama kayo ng aso mo!)

11. "It's not you, it's me...
(Buti alam mo!)

12."Talagang kapatid/kaibigan lang ang turing ko sa'yo, e. Let's keep it that way."
(Ganun mo pala ituring ang kapatid/kaibigan mo...tsk... tsk...)

13. “We are not growing anymore"
(nakalimutan ko nasa talampakan pala ang utak mo)

14. "I don't have feelings for you anymore."
(Wala ka kasing puso!)

15. "I need space..."
(Edi dun ka sa OUTER SPACE!)

16. "Mahahanap mo rin ang para sa iyo. Good luck na lang."
(Magtago kang mabuti ha, ayaw na kitang Makita.)

17. "We don't fit in together."
(Oo, ang taba mo kse. )

18. "Sorry kisses, di ka gusto ng mama ko"
(Hindi ko rin naman gusto ang nanay mo!)

19. "Sorry, I just realized mas gusto ko sa lalake "
(Eh di umamin ka rin! bakla!)

20. "let's call it QUITS! "
(QUITS mo mukha mo! Ano to laro?)

21. "Pupunta na ako sa America and I won't come back. Don't follow me there, please."
(Bakit sa AMerica? bakit hndi na lang sa IRAQ?)

22. " Na Realize ko mahal ko pa pala Ex ko/ mas mahal ko pala bestfriend ko"
(Sinong Ex?? May pumatol pa pala sayo?!?!?!?!)

23. " Masyado kang Bata "
(Mamasan pala ang gusto mo.)

24. " Kung talagang tayo kahit saang sulok ng mundo magtatagpo tayo"
(Hinding hindi na tayo magtatagpo.)

25. It was not meant to be ... so honey i am setting you free to look for your destiny"
(May pa-destiny destiny ka pang nalalaman...)

26. "our time together was beautiful ... but i realized that there are still things i like to discover so ...."
(Ikaw ba si Magellan???)

27. "You are too immature for me..."
(OO na, MAMASAN nga ang gus2 mo eh.)

28. "It seems that we are not compatible with each other."
(Hindi nga, TAO ako, HAYUP ka!)

29. "Tama na. Ayoko na. "
(Eh di WAG!!!!)

30. “I’ve decided to move on with my life... "
(Go on, basta wag ka ng magpapakita.)

31. "DI NA KITA MAHAL?"
(Ako ba tinanong mo kung mahal pa kita?)


Minsan sa buhay ng isang tao . . . masarap magmahal . . . pero pag iniwan ka nang taong mahal mo . . . Eto lang ang masasabi mo . . ."Minsan lang magmahal ang pusong tanga.”


Ikaw? Ano ang break up line mo?

On a lighter note

Break-ups are always painful if you ever care about each other. Both people are often wounded, and hurt each other with emotional reactions. But break-ups can reveal more about our heart and fears if we let the Spirit instruct us through the painful times. In my experience, when I'm hurting most is when the Spirit draws near to give comfort and insight.

We never know how things will work out. All we can really do is act the best we can in our particular circumstances. Remember that what lies in store for us isn't always that which we immediately hope for.

We can't dictate terms and expectations from God. His blessings probably exceed the little concerns we're struggling for. You may not be able to change the situation, but you can always try to grow through the challenges you're experiencing. It has more to do with HOW you handle the situation than how it turns out.

The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble that can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.

“Let’s still be friends, okay?”

“Let’s still be friends, okay?” this is the most common aftermath line when two lovers broke up. A promise of lasting friendship is simply a cover up for an uncomfortable situation, nothing more.

Maybe the line begins with very good intentions, but chances are, you end up with rotten results.

It’s so difficult to still keep in touch, and even if you do, you’d always be careful on the things you’re going to say.

If you say you’re doing great and feeling happy with the ways things are going, you may sound defensive, as if you are not affected.

If you say words of reminders or concern, you might sound as if you’re still in love with him.

If you tell him about your friends and your crushes you might sound like you want him to make jealous even if you don’t intend to, just to keep in touch…. right?

Sometimes we find ourselves smiling, reminiscing, and then later we’d end up crying. Why? A question that is quite hard to find an answer…

How can we convince ourselves to forget all about that guy when he’d done many nice things for us? We don’t have an idea what will happen next…but still, things kept on bothering our minds…

Do I still love him? Yes, in fact very much…but I doubt we’ll get back together again… Maybe all they can do for now is wait --- to wait for the right one…

Don’t even care how long.

Cause true love? That is worth waiting for…

Bitter and Jaded no more

After any breakup, you do what the average person does...

You sit and question.

You second guess every action.

You think about 'what-if'.

You debate on those words that seem so perfect, and then try to find a way to get them out.

Everyone tries to give you advice, and you love them for it. But, advice really can't be taken until you've reached a realization that what you had for as long as you had it for... is over.

And once you do realize it, the advice doesn't even matter because you fight with yourself... over the fact that there really is no one meant for you. That, it’s just isn't worth trying anymore. That being bitter and jaded may be the best way to live.

But, perhaps the best thing to do is understand.

Well, at least try to understand.

I found myself many times before being bitter and jaded after being broken up with. And, I can sense the feeling that perhaps my ex boyfriends also had those feelings towards me when I decided to call things off.

But, this year has taught me that as good as it is for your heart and mind to try and hold onto to something that is broke, it's not good for your soul.

Alas, it's also not good to just let go, as well.

So, you find yourself battling... trying to see what's the best road to take.

But, perhaps it's the road of understanding that's the best path to take.

Understanding that your heart will mend.

Understanding that they didn't mean to break your heart.

Understanding that tomorrow will come, and with it a reason to smile... a reason to live.

It's hard... you know, to understand. You become full of hatred that it's hard to try to understand someone else's thoughts when it's your own you're trying to deal with. But, in the end it's understanding that makes life worth living.

In understanding, you find a way to fight being bitter... fight being jaded, and most of all... fight all reason that leads you to believe it won't get better.

Because, it will get better.

It has before, and it will again.

To Be or Not to Be?

When you break up with someone, and you hang out with your friends, you want him to be there but then again, on second thought, you don’t want him to be there because you enjoy his presence and you like being with him…

Why?

Because he is always the one that can make you laugh, even when no one else is laughing; he is always the one that will make the stupid comments and the immature jokes, but you always laugh, and you can’t figure why…

But then you don’t want him to be there because every time you look at him it makes you want him even more.

You look at him and in your mind you’re saying “right now, I would be holding his hand, or kissing him” and it kills you that he doesn’t see how much you are hurting, but you try hiding it by smiling when he says hi to you or if he even looks at you…

And at the back of your numb worn-out mind, you wonder if he thinks or feels the same way you feel because you want to tell him how you feel so bad, but is afraid that he will laugh in your face, or even worse, not even pay attention….

So what do you do?

You mask all your feelings with a smile, pretending nothing is wrong, until you get home, where you cry yourself to sleep holding something dear to you that he gave you…

Silently wishing he also felt the pain that you feel…

Broken Break-ups

Isn't it funny how you can think you're completely over someone but if you drive past his house, stumble upon a meaningful song you both shared, see a picture of you together, or even get a glance of him on the street.... just in an instant, it can change all that…

And then you start to remember the pain… and that hollow space is feeling more and more like the Grand Canyon with every second that goes by…

But you bury these feelings deep down… so deep that you're sure no one will be able to tell.

To the outside world, you smile and act like nothing is wrong or will ever be.

Everything's just perfect.

And for that split second that you've locked eyes… a tiny whisper… say 'make this last forever, only and just this moment forever and ever'…

But after a second or so, you go along your own merry way, all the while realizing how much you do miss him, how much you still love him... and it sticks with you for days, weeks, maybe months, until fate decides to hand you another one of those unexpected moments.

And then you finally understand the worst feeling in the world is when the person you love most is standing right next to you, yet you can never have them. Try as you may, you can't make someone love you again…

And in relationships, the hardest thing to do is not moving on but not looking back…

Breaking up isn’t the worst part of breaking up…

But living with it…

I think most of us do

I think I noticed when things started to change...

I think most of us do...

The hugs were quicker, the phone calls were shorter, and they weren't every night. We didn't hurry to the place where we said we'd meet. The "I love you's" felt more like a forced, daily routine, and really had no meaning.

When we saw each other, the smiles weren't as bright, or as big. Our thoughts weren't only of each other.

We seemed uninterested…

We felt unloved.

We had too many doubts...

I think I noticed when things started to change...

I think most of us do.