Initially, I really didn’t want to answer this question because I think it’s too cheesy. But since I am always being asked of what I am looking for in a guy, I might as well describe eight different points of what I think a male perfect lover should be.Besides, who knows, he might get to read this blog.
Here it goes...
1) He's gotta be grown-up. Does he do what needs to be done? Does he know what needs to be done to begin with? Is he responsible, trustworthy, and reliable? Can he admit when he's wrong? Does he take responsibilities for his words and actions? Most importantly, does he take charge of his life or is he one of those self-destructive victims who blame everyone but themselves for their unhappiness (In that case, he can look elsewhere).
2) He must be funny and imaginative. I like guys who laugh easily, and who aren't afraid to be silly and spontaneous. He must know how to make me laugh and he should smile often. He and I must be able to have fun anywhere we are, whether it's at a rock concert, or inside a theatre watching a horror movie, or a walk in the park, or bumming on a sofa, or at a 7-Eleven --- anywhere!
3) I simply cannot be with a boring person. He must be the type of person who enjoys conversation. Someone who always has a say on things. If I can talk to him for hours and hours straight, and be genuinely interested in what he's saying the entire time, then that's 50 pogi-points. But he must also enjoy being silent.
4) Passion is sexy. He has to be passionate about something --- be it sports, music, art, anything, theatre, movies, books --- so long as I can tell his heart is in it, and his eyes light up when he brings it up, and he can talk about it like life is not worth living without it. (Note: this does not hold true for drugs, alcohol, pornography... you get the idea)
5) He must have direction in his life. Ok, so maybe he's in his twenties and going through confusion. Maybe he doesn't have to know exactly what he wants to do. But in the meantime, I would at least like him to be actively searching for what he wants to do, and not just bumming around watching TV or playing computer games at home.
6) What makes me fall in love is not perfection but imperfection --- little quirks that define a person's personality and character. I don't want perfect taste in clothes. I just want him to dress like himself, whoever that is. I don't want perfectly neat hair, or perfect skin. I like my men touchable, real, comfortable with themselves, and yes, a little messy, and scruffy, and madungis. ;-) It's just personal preference.
7) It is important to me that he has a spiritual life. This is not about being Catholic. This is about believing in a transcendent being, a belief that there is something beyond all this that we must strive for. I want him to pray, not just the Hail-Holy-Mary kind of praying, but real praying. It's okay if he's not entirely sure what he believes in yet, as long as he's searching.
8) Last but not the least, I would like him to be the kind of person who cares about humanity. I want him to be kind, and compassionate and capable of making good moral decisions. He must love his family and he must learn to love the people I love, or at least understand why I love them. He must have a cause, and a desire to make a difference. Ok, he doesn't have to save the world, but I do want him to have other ambitions besides getting rich, buying a nice house, and a nice car.
Anyone qualified?
2) He must be funny and imaginative. I like guys who laugh easily, and who aren't afraid to be silly and spontaneous. He must know how to make me laugh and he should smile often. He and I must be able to have fun anywhere we are, whether it's at a rock concert, or inside a theatre watching a horror movie, or a walk in the park, or bumming on a sofa, or at a 7-Eleven --- anywhere!
3) I simply cannot be with a boring person. He must be the type of person who enjoys conversation. Someone who always has a say on things. If I can talk to him for hours and hours straight, and be genuinely interested in what he's saying the entire time, then that's 50 pogi-points. But he must also enjoy being silent.
4) Passion is sexy. He has to be passionate about something --- be it sports, music, art, anything, theatre, movies, books --- so long as I can tell his heart is in it, and his eyes light up when he brings it up, and he can talk about it like life is not worth living without it. (Note: this does not hold true for drugs, alcohol, pornography... you get the idea)
5) He must have direction in his life. Ok, so maybe he's in his twenties and going through confusion. Maybe he doesn't have to know exactly what he wants to do. But in the meantime, I would at least like him to be actively searching for what he wants to do, and not just bumming around watching TV or playing computer games at home.
6) What makes me fall in love is not perfection but imperfection --- little quirks that define a person's personality and character. I don't want perfect taste in clothes. I just want him to dress like himself, whoever that is. I don't want perfectly neat hair, or perfect skin. I like my men touchable, real, comfortable with themselves, and yes, a little messy, and scruffy, and madungis. ;-) It's just personal preference.
7) It is important to me that he has a spiritual life. This is not about being Catholic. This is about believing in a transcendent being, a belief that there is something beyond all this that we must strive for. I want him to pray, not just the Hail-Holy-Mary kind of praying, but real praying. It's okay if he's not entirely sure what he believes in yet, as long as he's searching.
8) Last but not the least, I would like him to be the kind of person who cares about humanity. I want him to be kind, and compassionate and capable of making good moral decisions. He must love his family and he must learn to love the people I love, or at least understand why I love them. He must have a cause, and a desire to make a difference. Ok, he doesn't have to save the world, but I do want him to have other ambitions besides getting rich, buying a nice house, and a nice car.
Anyone qualified?
Who wants to apply? Send me your updated resume. =)
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