Tuesday, July 3, 2007

Fairytales and a tale without a fairy


Would you believe in Fairytales,
If there was no damsel in distress?
Would you try to climb a bean stalk,
If the sky were any less?
Would you believe in ever-afters,
If there was no happily?
Would everything be perfect,
If we lived in fantasy?
Would time ever stop turning,
If we asked it to?
Would you stay with me forever then?
Or I with you?
If i gave to you a lock of hair,
Would you the courage to climb it?
If i promised you my heart,
Would you the valor to cherish it?
If I sang to you the siren song,
Would you the courage to listen?
If i waltzed around our reverance,
would you the valor to start dancing?
If i was to ride away with you,
would you ever change?
If i told you that i loved you,would you feel the same?
Do you believe in Fairytales?
Do you believe in mindless love?
Do you believe in reality?
Do you believe I love you just because?
Would you wish your life away
on some star crossed wishing well?
Would you forget the hopeful love,
and take on pain or hell?
I believe in a Fairytale
where you are my prince charming.
I believe in a reality
where broken hearts are not alarming.
Would you believe in ever-afters
If there was no happily?
I believe that everything is possible,
If you were my fantasy.

Most people have a fantasy about relationships. It goes something like this:

One day they will meet their ideal partner. This person will understand them completely and will easily connect with them. There will be no arguments. Everything will be perfect. Magic will happen and will continue forever.

The reality of relationships is quite different. An intimate relationship is one of the most powerful opportunities for personal growth. And growth -- even for the most transformed person -- often brings pain. But it also brings incredible joy. Relationships are akin to life - sometimes sublime and sometimes challenging. As with life, the amount of satisfaction you derive depends on how much you are willing to move outside of your comfort zone.

Love, by definition, requires that we make ourselves vulnerable. Loving someone who loves us in return is the only thing I consider beautiful in this strange world of ours. But as it is said, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." True, we should choose our adventures with caution, but risk will always be a factor. Sometimes we get hurt or deceived, but if in the end we find someone who is of a same giving heart and takes joy in loving us as we do them... then the preservation of a kind heart will be its own reward.

Relationships are not the way they are portrayed in fairy tales. The beauty of relationships is that they are an opportunity for each partner to transform. Growth will be painful at times because it will require each partner to go beyond what they know about relationships.

If you are unwilling to look within yourself and move outside your comfort zone, then stay single and date casually. If you are willing to grow, you will reap the benefits of a dynamic, loving partnership.

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